Know what you want.
Before having the conversation, and regardless of what happens during it, Sanders recommends you go in knowing what you want out of it-whether it’s proof, answers, saying your piece, breaking up, or going to couples’ therapy for a resolution. “Don’t confront without a plan, or the conversation is going to go on forever,” she adds. “Do what gives you closure. They made their choice, and you’re free to make yours too.”